{"id":9986,"date":"2012-07-02T02:21:28","date_gmt":"2012-07-02T09:21:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/svapm.org\/?p=9986"},"modified":"2012-07-02T16:37:32","modified_gmt":"2012-07-02T23:37:32","slug":"still-dont-have-mentor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/svapm.org\/?p=9986","title":{"rendered":"Still Don&#8217;t Have a Mentor?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.neoclassicism.us\/Content\/ClassicalStories\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft  wp-image-9994\" style=\"margin: 2px 3px;\" title=\"mentor\" src=\"https:\/\/svapm.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/07\/mentor-249x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"199\" height=\"240\" srcset=\"https:\/\/svapm.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/07\/mentor-249x300.jpg 249w, https:\/\/svapm.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/07\/mentor.jpg 416w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 199px) 100vw, 199px\" \/><\/a>You may have heard that you should get a <a href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Mentor\" target=\"_blank\">mentor<\/a> to help you grow in your career. Have you gotten one? If not, it&#8217;s time to take action.<\/p>\n<p>A\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Mentor\" target=\"_blank\">mentor<\/a>\u00a0is not the same as a coach. Great athletes have coaches. Their coaches can&#8217;t outperform them, but they can help improve their performance. A mentor gives advice, imparts wisdom to and shares knowledge with a less experienced colleague. By definition a mentor is someone who is better or more experienced in some area than you are.\u00a0Unless you&#8217;re the smartest, most experienced person on Earth, you could benefit from mentoring.<\/p>\n<p>My mom always told me &#8220;There&#8217;s always someone better than you and someone worse than you.&#8221; Although tempted by both jealousy and arrogance, my aim has been to learn from those who were better and help those who were worse (not that I could always tell which was which).\u00a0Ever since I learned that there was such a thing as a mentor I&#8217;ve sought out people who could advise me in my career. And I&#8217;ve sometimes had more than one mentor at a time for different purposes. I personally feel that the advice of mentors has been the single-most important factor in my own career success.\u00a0This week we&#8217;ll explore mentoring, \u00a0how to get a mentor, and how to make good use of this valuable relationship.<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>All but one of my mentors was an informal relationship that I sought out, but many companies have formal mentoring programs that will match you to a mentor. Here&#8217;s what one <a href=\"http:\/\/http:\/\/www.nationwide.com\/newsroom\/020510-DI-Catalyst.jsp\" target=\"_blank\">study revealed about formal mentoring programs<\/a> inside of a company:<\/p>\n<p>\u201c. . . formal mentoring programs can reduce turnover, enhance a company\u2019s recruitment efforts, increase the overall performance of a company and create an overall improved work environment, especially for women and people of color,\u201d said Candice Barnhardt, vice president, Nationwide Insurance.<\/p>\n<p><strong>&#8220;Will You Be My Mentor Please?&#8221;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Of course you shouldn\u2019t just run up to someone and beg them to mentor you! Here\u2019s some guidance on how to get the mentoring you need.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Start Small. <\/strong>Initially request only one meeting, not a lifelong relationship. If your first encounter goes well you can say \u201cI\u2019ve found our discussion today extremely valuable. Would you be willing to get together again?\u201d<\/li>\n<li><strong>Make Your Request in Person.<\/strong> Inviting them in person greatly improves the likelihood that they will accept. And don\u2019t even think of sending your request via email!<\/li>\n<li><strong>Give Them a Graceful Exit. <\/strong>Successful business people are very busy so don\u2019t take it personally if your invitation is rejected.\u00a0 Give them a graceful way to say no.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Why Do You Want a Mentor?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Be prepared to tell people why you want a mentor. What do you hope to learn? Why do you think having a mentor will help? Don\u2019t overlook other paths to business growth, such as participating in professional associations, taking classes, and reading books. Mentoring is not a substitute for learning what you can from these other valuable resources.<\/p>\n<p><strong>They&#8217;ll Likely Ask \u201cWhy Me?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Be sure to choose people whom you truly admire. Tell them what wisdom you&#8217;d like them to share, what knowledge you&#8217;d like to tap into, or what characteristics they possess that you wish to develop in yourself. Explain how you think their experiences could be helpful to you.<\/p>\n<p><strong>What Should You Say?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><\/strong>Here\u2019s a detailed example that you can adapt to your specific situation. \u201cRichard, your presentation at our company meeting was so inspiring, and I admire the way you supported your recommendations with a clear financial analysis. Giving powerful presentations is a talent I\u2019d like to develop in myself. I\u2019ve read a lot on the topic, but I think I could learn a lot from someone like you that I could never learn from a book. I\u2019m sure you\u2019re very busy, but would you be willing to share your experiences with me over a cup of tea sometime?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t even need to use the word \u201cmentor\u201d. Just ask for some time with a person you admire, ask them open-ended questions, and listen with sincere interest to their stories. Chances are that they will enjoy the experience as much as you do. If, after a couple of meetings, you find you are a great match you can ask them if they\u2019d be willing to meet regularly. Then you can say \u201cI\u2019ve benefited so much from your advice! I think of you as a mentor and I\u2019d like to be able to rely on you in the future to advise me in my career.\u201d\u00a0If you\u2019ve formed a mutually enjoyable relationship they just might say yes! It\u2019s worked for me over and over again. I&#8217;ll share a few of my personal experiences with mentors in my blog posts this week.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You may have heard that you should get a mentor to help you grow in your career. 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