{"id":652,"date":"2007-11-01T06:00:30","date_gmt":"2007-11-01T06:00:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/svapm.org\/2007\/11\/01\/making-my-move\/"},"modified":"2019-08-07T14:37:04","modified_gmt":"2019-08-07T21:37:04","slug":"making-my-move","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/svapm.org\/?p=652","title":{"rendered":"Making my move"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"(c)Now that I was clear<\/strong> on where I stood with regards to not just leadership in general, but the dynamic with “Don” in particular, I was ready to move forward.<\/p>\n

Here’s where it gets tricky. I may be very clear on where I stand and what I want, but I have no control over what the other person is going to do. And so I must step forward realizing that what’s right for me may not make work for the other person. It is\u00a0a real possibility that we may not be able to work something out. I have to come to grips with that.<\/p>\n

And so I laid out<\/strong> my values: I said, “I understand that you’re unhappy here. It’s very important to me that in the work you do, it be a situation that you’re happy with, be it here or somewhere else. You need to make that decision.”<\/p>\n

With that I was signaling to him that I wasn’t going to pursue him, but rather I’d leave him to get clear on what he needed, and where he wanted to be. Then we can have a productive discussion, rather than just\u00a0an emotionally charged “pointed exchange of views.”<\/p>\n

And so with\u00a0the clarity of my values, I stepped into the emotional pressure, not knowing what would happen.<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/p>\n

Paul Konasewich
\nhttp:\/\/connectleadership.com<\/a><\/p>\n

\u00a9 2007 Paul Konasewich<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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