{"id":5144,"date":"2010-10-12T05:32:17","date_gmt":"2010-10-12T12:32:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/svapm.org\/?p=5144"},"modified":"2010-10-12T05:32:17","modified_gmt":"2010-10-12T12:32:17","slug":"you%e2%80%99re-emotional-too","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/svapm.org\/?p=5144","title":{"rendered":"You\u2019re Emotional, Too"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Are you emotional? If you are reading this you probably are. Are you *too* emotional? That depends. This statement infers that a judgment is being made. The person who would make that statement would be responding to an emoting person. I have been in situations where one person tells another that they are being \u201ctoo emotional.\u201d I have been in other situations where people have complained to me about others that they are \u201ctoo emotional.\u201d I have myself experienced the other side of this coin where someone said something that was hurtful and when I asked them about it later they said I was being \u201cToo Sensitive.\u201d Too Emotional? Too Sensitive? What is going on here?<\/p>\n

Emotional reactions vary from person to person. Certainly there are positive emotions and negative emotional reactions. Most people welcome the positive and shun the negative, while a few of us prefer the negative emotions to the positive. Emotional reactions differ, too. To any given provocation, some of us may react with anger, some by going silent, some by objecting to whatever is being proposed, some by finding fault, some by reacting with a personal counter attack. Given the broad set of responses and tolerance to responses, it is easy to see how a situation can arise when the \u201cToo Emotional\u201d judgment is made.<\/p>\n

Because of this wide variation, you have to look at the individuals involved when there is a mismatch between the person emoting and the person receiving the emotion. For instance, to a person who is uncomfortable with any negative emotional reaction, even the mildest display of negative emotion may illicit the \u201cYou\u2019re Too Emotional\u201d response. And, to a person accustomed to sparring with emotional jabs, any reaction to a jab will illicit the \u201cYou\u2019re Too Sensitive\u201d response. I know now that this was the case in my particular incident.<\/p>\n

Here is the kicker for me. Earlier in my career I did a lot of engineering design work. Frankly, I found that emotions in the workplace were a distraction. Anything that pulled me out of my state of \u201cflow\u201d I considered bad. Since then I have had a change of heart. Reflecting on the more innovative and creative teams I have worked with, I notice that there is a high level of emotional provocation and response between team members. Those of us with grayer hair may look on that as emotional immaturity. Yet, it is this mix of emotional provocation and reaction that is one of the ingredients that constitutes fertile ground for fostering creative ideas and innovation.<\/p>\n

There is one place in town where all the non-emotional people gather \u2013 the cemetery. For those of us who have not joined that crowd, we will continue to emote and be reacted to, and we will continue to react to others emotional provocations. It behooves us all to learn firstly how each of us responds emotionally, and how that response will affect others. Also, it helps to understand how others respond and how that affects us. Finally, we will want to acknowledge that there may be a good time and place for a high degree of emotional interaction in the workplace, when that helps spark creative and innovative thinking.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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