{"id":3323,"date":"2009-10-29T06:34:02","date_gmt":"2009-10-29T13:34:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/svapm.org\/?p=3323"},"modified":"2019-08-07T14:30:06","modified_gmt":"2019-08-07T21:30:06","slug":"foggy-weather","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/svapm.org\/?p=3323","title":{"rendered":"Foggy Weather"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"fog\"Let\u2019s continue to LEAD, albeit backwards\u2026The other day I wrote about Delegation.\u00a0 Today, let\u2019s focus on Act and Encourage.\u00a0 Sometimes, a little fog is good for team climate…No matter what you say as a leader, your actions will always say more.\u00a0 \u00a0Rapport exists when two people develop a feeling of harmony, well-being and security.\u00a0 Rapport is about meeting people on their own level and making them feel at ease.\u00a0 It is based on mutual respect and agreement.\u00a0 When relating with other people, you can choose one of two standpoints from which to establish synergy.\u00a0 You can concentrate on the differences between you, or you can emphasize the similarities between you.\u00a0 This is particularly important when leading teams which include a mixture of aggressive, assertive, and submissive behavior.<\/p>\n

Regardless of how another individual acts or behaves, it is important to reflect the same feelings and moods as the other person; at the very least show an appreciation for how they are feeling.\u00a0 Even when those feelings are negative, for example, the other person is tense or angry, you need to acknowledge and respect this in order to build rapport and to move the conversation forward.<\/p>\n

When dealing with aggressive behavior, breathe evenly, keep calm and stay quiet.\u00a0 Think, \u201cThis person is behaving aggressively, I’ll deal with it in an assertive manner.\u201d\u00a0 Ask open questions:\u00a0 Who, What, When, and Which.\u00a0 Do not ask Why; this will often place someone exhibiting aggressive behavior into a defensive mode, resulting in more aggressive behavior. Asking Why appears to question motives rather than gather information. \u00a0Level with the person, explain how their behavior feels aggressive and describe how it is having an adverse effect on your and\/or the team.<\/p>\n

When someone is behaving aggressively, they tend to expect disagreement.\u00a0 Why not slow them down by giving an unexpected response?\u00a0 Fogging is a technique used to sidestep their issue while retaining your viewpoint and integrity.\u00a0 For example, if someone said to you, \u201cThat was a pretty stupid way to behave in the meeting.\u201d\u00a0 You can respond in an unexpected manner by saying, \u201cYes, I can see that you think it was a pretty stupid way to behave.\u201d\u00a0 The word \u201cyes\u201d takes them by surprise, slows them down and can reduce the tension.\u00a0 You are not agreeing that you behaved stupidly, only that you can see that that they think so.<\/p>\n

We all see better when the fog lifts.<\/p>\n

Lisa DiTullio, Principal, Lisa DiTullio & Associates, www.lisaditullio.com<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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