{"id":2909,"date":"2009-08-09T08:53:21","date_gmt":"2009-08-09T15:53:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/svapm.org\/?p=2909"},"modified":"2019-08-07T14:30:49","modified_gmt":"2019-08-07T21:30:49","slug":"married-to-the-mob","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/svapm.org\/?p=2909","title":{"rendered":"Married to the Mob"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"themob\"I am lucky to live by the ocean.\u00a0 Yesterday, I had the opportunity to spend two hours at the beach, by myself\u2014no husband or children in tow.\u00a0 I packed up a slew of unread magazines, my iPod, and sunscreen — I was ready for a blissful afternoon.\u00a0 With the warm sunshine at my face, a gentle breeze in my hair and the ocean at my toes, I was in heaven.<\/p>\n

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As I plowed through my stack of magazines, I came across an article about marriage.\u00a0 The gist of the article was this \u2013 when it comes to what makes a happy marriage, go with the 75-percent rule:\u00a0 People believe that a good marriage is defined as being happy at least 75 percent of the time, according to a poll of 1,500 adults.\u00a0 According to Scott Haltzman, M.D., author of The Secrets of Happy Families<\/em>, rather than dwelling on what\u2019s wrong or feeling a sense of failure that things aren\u2019t perfect, assume there will always be highs and lows throughout the duration of the relationship.<\/p>\n

\u00a0Whether you are part of a couple or married to the mob, the same philosophy applies.\u00a0 Before you seek counseling for your project team, remember that 25 percent of not-so-good-times are normal team dynamics.\u00a0\u00a0 Don\u2019t view tough times as an indication your team is flawed; don\u2019t put pressure on yourself to solve something that\u2019s not a problem; don\u2019t blame your teammates for not making you happy.\u00a0 Instead, follow these four steps to lead your team to steady longevity:<\/p>\n

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  1. Identify 1-2 improvement opportunities for your team<\/li>\n
  2. Develop an improvement approach\u00a0 that everyone can agree to<\/li>\n
  3. Establish a timeline and measures for success<\/li>\n
  4. Reward yourselves for improvements made<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    \u00a0Remember to have a life outside of your team; spending time with family, friends and hobbies fulfills you and keeps your relationship fresh when you rejoin your teammates.\u00a0 Remember to take time for yourself so that during the happy 75percent of your time with your team, you have 100 percent of yourself to give.<\/p>\n

    \u00a0Lisa DiTullio, Principal, Lisa DiTullio & Associates, LLC<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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