{"id":12873,"date":"2013-10-01T06:00:33","date_gmt":"2013-10-01T13:00:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/svapm.org\/?p=12873"},"modified":"2013-09-30T20:25:41","modified_gmt":"2013-10-01T03:25:41","slug":"mirroring-1-0-rapport-building-and-physical-appearance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/svapm.org\/?p=12873","title":{"rendered":"Mirroring 1.0 \u2013 Rapport Building and Physical Appearance"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/svapm.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/09\/Mirroring-1.0.bmp\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-12874\" alt=\"Mirroring 1.0\" src=\"https:\/\/svapm.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/09\/Mirroring-1.0.bmp\" \/><\/a>How you appear really does matter to the people you meet. How you dress and your posture send a message. You can tailor that message to have an impact on your new acquaintances. This post describes techniques to help you tailor your look to help you put people at ease in a way that will allow you to establish rapport and, ultimately, build a trusting relationship.<\/p>\n<p>People Like People Like Themselves<\/p>\n<p>First let\u2019s address dress.\u00a0 People can be put off by those that are either overdressed or underdressed.\u00a0 The idea is to dress in a way congruous with the person you plan to meet. Ideally, you want to dress just one level above that person.\u00a0 For men, if you think your new acquaintance will be in slacks and a polo shirt, then you dress in nicer slacks and button down shirt; if you think he will be in business casual with a coat, you select business casual with coat and tie.\u00a0 You get the idea? For women, the idea is analogous. And while I am no expert, I understand that dress levels can be adjusted using accessories as well as clothes.\u00a0 Bottom line: you want to anticipate how your new acquaintance will be dressed, do not overdress nor underdress, and dress just one level higher.\u00a0 In this way, you will put the person at ease without being off-putting.<\/p>\n<p>Next,\u00a0 you will want to observe your new acquaintance\u2019s body position. Are they sitting with legs open or crossed? Is their body forward or back? Are they propping there head in their hand? The person will feel comfortable if you mirror these positions, appearing to them as if they are looking in a mirror when they look at you. In fact, I have noticed that people do this naturally, as if it is an innate rapport-building mechanism that we have. Needless to say, don\u2019t be obvious.\u00a0 Simply mirror your new acquaintance\u2019s body position in a casual, natural way.<\/p>\n<p>Using these simple physical mirroring techniques, you will put new acquaintances at ease which will allow you to begin building rapport.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How you appear really does matter to the people you meet. How you dress and your posture send a message. 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