{"id":11781,"date":"2013-04-15T05:59:33","date_gmt":"2013-04-15T12:59:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/svapm.org\/?p=11781"},"modified":"2013-04-15T05:59:33","modified_gmt":"2013-04-15T12:59:33","slug":"how-to-accept-a-compliment-with-grace-and-goodwill","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/svapm.org\/?p=11781","title":{"rendered":"Good Job: How to Accept a Compliment"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Good Job: How to Accept a Compliment<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

I’ve never had a problem accepting a compliment, so it came as a surprise to discover that many people find this basic interpersonal skill challenging and uncomfortable.<\/p>\n

After a bit of reflection, I decided that cultural orientation aside, accepting compliments is second nature to me. Why? Because I don’t try to figure out the reason behind the compliment, other than the goodwill that is presented to me “in the moment”.<\/p>\n

At first glance, this might seem naive, but I assure you that accepting these little bouquets of acknowledgment with a smile and a sincere “thank you” or “thank you very much” has served me well over the years with both friends and co-workers.<\/p>\n

As author Maya Angelou once said: “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”\u00a0I believe that this sage observation captures the essence of \u00a0accepting a compliment exponentially because when a compliment is received with grace and generosity, both the giver and the receiver feel good. \u00a0Really good. Hmm, perhaps this is because as human beings, we are simply “wired” that way. I’d like to think so.<\/p>\n

Trouble Accepting a Compliment? Here’s a Tip<\/strong><\/p>\n

<\/strong>If you find yourself stammering, filling the air with pregnant pauses, or discarding many of the compliments that come your way, here is a tip: \u00a0When receiving a compliment, try to clear your mind and focus on the other person rather than yourself. Think about it. If you focus on the other person, you are not making a judgement about your worthiness to receive a compliment, the accuracy of the compliment or anything else that might make this potentially enriching interpersonal exchange “less than” it is. Plus, and this is a big plus, you are now in a position to make another human being feel good.<\/p>\n

We all know what it feels like to deliver a genuine compliment to a friend or co-worker only to have our words diminished by “Oh, it was nothing.” or \u00a0“Anyone could do this.” or “It is OK, but I really wanted to do xyz.” \u00a0It can make you feel so let down and deflated like a helium balloon!<\/p>\n

If you have trouble accepting a compliment and are asking yourself “how to” accept a compliment in a positive way, check out these scenarios by K.T. Bernhagen:<\/p>\n

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  • For a job well done:<\/strong>\u00a0\u201cThank you. I was hoping this was what you were looking for, and I really like it too.\u201d<\/li>\n
  • For a speech, performance, article, or work of art:<\/strong>\u00a0\u201cThank you. I really enjoy (writing, performing, speaking, whatever), and I\u2019m glad you liked it!\u201d<\/li>\n
  • For your help:<\/strong>\u00a0\u201cThank you. I\u2019m so glad that I could help.\u201d<\/li>\n
  • If you caught a mistake that was missed by others:<\/strong>\u00a0\u201cThanks for noticing. I\u2019m glad I caught it, too.\u201d<\/li>\n
  • In any other situation:<\/strong>\u00a0\u201cThank you. I appreciate it!\u201d Enough said.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    Here are a couple of other scenarios for your toolbox by author Jack Griffen:<\/p>\n

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    • If someone says “You deserve it”<\/strong>, consider replying with: “I’ve had \u00a0a good example set for me. You have given me a lot of support. It’s meant a lot.”<\/span><\/li>\n
    • If someone says “I don’t give praise lightly”<\/strong>, consider replying with: “I know you don’t. That’s why I am thrilled with your remarks. They mean a great deal to me.”<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

      Like most things in life, all you will need to master the art of accepting a compliment with grace, generosity and goodwill is a little time, attention and practice.<\/p>\n

      I’d like to end on a comical note, so here’s a quote about compliments by the incorrigible Mark Twain: “I have been complimented many times and they always embarrass me; I always feel they have not said enough.\u201d Ha!<\/p>\n

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